Got Marriage?

UPDATE: I originally posted this on my personal blog over a year ago, but I feel that it resonates even more today, so I decided to update and re-post. Caution for strong language.

I am so sick of respecting people’s opinions when it comes to gay marriage.

I have more respect for the man who calls me a faggot to my face than the woman who enjoys my company but doesn’t believe I should marry the man I love.

If your beliefs get in the way of me marrying and starting a family with the man that I love, you can forget about me being your friend.

If you don’t believe a man should marry another man, don’t marry one.

See, I’m not imposing my beliefs on you.

But when you tell me that I can’t marry a man because the Bible says I shouldn’t, you kind of are.

Throwing the Bible in people’s faces turns the word of God into a weapon.

Granted: it is much easier for you to condemn me than to try and understand me.

But if I’ve learned anything in the past year, it’s that the hard stuff is always worth working through because it gets you to where you wanna be.

And I wanna be on my honeymoon with the man of my dreams, drinking champagne and planning the rest of my life with him – for better or for worse.

I hold that picture in my head to keep me from attacking you.

You, who deny me of my right to love, then say that you are entitled to your opinion.

I want to hate you so badly.

Could you really be that simple-minded?

Do you really think that God created you and the devil created the ‘gays’?

Do you question my moral fiber because I’m gay?

Do you think that I belong in the same category as pedophiles and rapists because I accept my homosexuality?

Well, if you do, let me be the first to say:

FUCK YOU.

You don’t know God any better than I do.

And I know that God is love.

The fact that love between two men is less common doesn’t make it disgusting or unnatural.

The commitment of two human beings of any gender to love one another until the day that they die is beautiful. He who thinks otherwise has not looked deeply into his soul.

And there is no statistic  you can give me that can prove that marriage equality destroys families.

There’s one thing that destroys families and that’s -

HATE.

It was hate that killed Tyler Clementi.

It’s hate that drives our youth to suicide to avoid humiliation.

Hate drives parents to disown their gay children.

Hate keeps kids in foster care because you don’t consider gay people worthy of parenthood.

Hate is the problem, not homosexuality.

And you can try to repress it or ignore it all you want, but homosexuality isn’t going anywhere.

And neither is my fight.

This isn’t even the first round, Boo.

You’re gonna have to knock me out before you tell me who I can and cannot love.

So bring it.

And don’t expect me to take it lying down.

From now on, I’m gonna take the moral high ground.